Someone picks a number between 1 and 21. You read the question out loud. They have to answer — honestly. No skipping, no deflecting, no “I’ll pass.” That single mechanic has turned 21 Questions into the most-played conversation game on the planet, and the reason is almost embarrassingly simple: people want to be asked things no one normally asks. Not small-talk questions. Not job-interview questions. The ones that sit in the space between what you’d say to someone’s face and what you’d type at 2 a.m.

Psychologist Arthur Aron’s 36 Questions study proved what 21 Questions players already knew intuitively — escalating personal disclosure between two people accelerates closeness at a rate that years of surface-level conversation can’t match. The 21-question format is the social-media-era compression of that principle: fewer questions, faster escalation, and a built-in end point that keeps it from tipping into interrogation.

Below you’ll find 220+ questions sorted into 10 categories by vibe — freaky, flirty, deep, funny, spicy 18+, couples, friends, getting-to-know-someone, and over text — plus the complete rule set for every format (classic, group hot seat, the viral number-pick version, and a drinking game twist). Every section is designed to slide into the format you’re already using, whether that’s a face-to-face circle or a midnight text thread. And if you’re after a different party-game mechanic entirely, Truth or Dare, Never Have I Ever, Would You Rather, and Paranoia each use a completely different social pressure point.

How to Play 21 Questions (Complete Rules for Every Format)

The 21 questions game has evolved well past its original format. Here are the four ways people play it today, from the classic version to the viral number-pick format that dominates text conversations. Pick the one that fits your situation — or mix formats across a single session.

Classic 21 Questions Rules (2 Players)

The original format is built for two people who want to get to know each other — a first date, a long car ride, or a late-night phone call.

Step 1: One person is the “answerer” for the round. They’ll answer all 21 questions.
Step 2: The other person asks up to 21 questions, one at a time. Questions can be anything — personal, hypothetical, silly, deep.
Step 3: The answerer must respond honestly. No “I don’t know” and no passing (that’s the entire point of the game).
Step 4: After 21 questions, swap roles. The previous asker now answers.
Optional pass rule: Some groups allow 1–3 passes per round — the answerer can skip a question, but can’t get the pass back once it’s used.

Group / Hot Seat Format (3+ Players)

In the group version, one person sits in the hot seat and the entire group asks questions. This is the format that works best at parties and sleepovers.

Setup: Everyone sits in a circle. One person volunteers (or is chosen) for the hot seat.
Turns: Going clockwise, each player asks the hot-seat person one question. After 21 questions total (or once around the circle), a new person takes the hot seat.
Veto mechanic: The hot-seat person can veto one question per round — but the group gets to replace it with a question of their collective choosing, which is always worse.

Number-Pick Format (The Viral Version)

This is the format that went viral on social media and is the most common way 21 Questions is played over text. It works with any number of players.

Step 1: One player creates a numbered list of 21 questions (or uses a pre-made list from this article).
Step 2: The other player(s) pick a number between 1 and 21 WITHOUT seeing the questions.
Step 3: The question corresponding to that number is revealed, and the person who picked it has to answer.
Why it works: The blind selection removes the “easy question” escape hatch. You might dodge #7 thinking it’s safe and land on #13, which turns out to be the most unhinged question on the list.

21 Questions Over Text

The text version follows the number-pick format but adds its own conventions:

Pacing: Don’t rapid-fire all 21 questions. Send 3–5 at a time with room for follow-up conversation between batches. The best text games stretch across hours, not minutes.
Screenshot rule: Agree upfront: no screenshotting answers. This is the trust contract that makes people answer honestly over text.
Voice note option: For questions that need tone of voice (anything flirty, sarcastic, or emotional), suggest a voice note reply instead of text. Written tone is easily misread.

How to play 21 questions – 21 Questions Over Text

21 Questions Game — Freaky Edition

Freaky 21 questions are the ones that make the other person pause before answering — not because they don’t know, but because they’re deciding how honest to be. These are built for late-night conversations, dating-app energy, and any situation where the goal is to find out what someone is really like when the filter comes off. If things get too intense, cool down with the funny section below.

1. What’s something you’ve done that you’d never tell your parents about?

2. What’s the most scandalous thought you’ve had about someone in this room?

3. If you could read one person’s mind for 24 hours, whose would it be — and what do you think you’d find?

4. What’s the riskiest text you’ve ever sent?

5. Have you ever had a dream about someone you shouldn’t have? Who?

6. What’s your biggest ‘guilty pleasure’ that would surprise people who know you?

7. What’s the most impulsive thing you’ve ever done because of attraction?

8. If you had to reveal one secret to everyone here, what would it be?

9. What’s the freakiest thing on your bucket list?

10. Have you ever been caught doing something you definitely should not have been doing?

11. What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve searched for online?

12. If your search history was projected on a screen right now, what would you delete first?

13. What’s the wildest dare you’ve actually followed through on?

14. What’s something you pretend to hate but secretly enjoy?

15. Have you ever had a ‘what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas’ moment? Give one detail.

16. What’s the craziest place you’ve ever hooked up or wanted to?

17. If you could get away with anything for one night with zero consequences, what would you do?

18. What’s the freakiest confession someone has ever made to you?

19. Have you ever developed feelings for someone you knew was completely off-limits?

20. What’s the most unhinged thing you’ve done to get someone’s attention?

21. If you could send an anonymous text to anyone right now with no consequences, what would it say?

22. What’s a fantasy you’ve never told anyone about?

23. Have you ever pretended to be asleep to avoid a situation? What was the situation?

24. What’s the most awkward thing that’s happened to you in a romantic situation?

25. If truth serum existed, what question would terrify you the most?

Flirty 21 Questions to Ask Your Crush

Flirty 21 questions walk the line between curious and interested — they signal attraction without the pressure of a direct move. These are built for early-stage dating, text flirting, and those conversations where you’re both pretending it’s just a game while actively trying to figure out if the other person is into you. For the couples who are past the crush stage, skip ahead to the couples section.

26. What’s the first thing you noticed about me?

27. Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?

28. What would your ideal first date look like — no budget limit?

29. What’s a compliment you’ve received that you still think about?

30. If you could describe your love language in one sentence, what would it be?

31. What’s the most romantic thing someone has ever done for you?

32. What quality in a person makes you instantly attracted to them?

33. Have you ever liked someone and never told them? What stopped you?

34. What’s your idea of a perfect kiss?

35. If we were stuck on a desert island together, what’s the first thing you’d want to know about me?

36. What song makes you think of someone specific?

37. Do you prefer good morning texts or goodnight calls?

38. What’s the most attractive non-physical trait someone can have?

39. Have you ever written a love letter — or wished someone would write you one?

40. What would you cook for someone you were trying to impress?

41. What’s the biggest green flag on a first date?

42. If you could relive one moment with someone you liked, which would it be?

43. What’s your go-to move when you’re trying to flirt and failing?

44. Would you rather receive flowers or plan the adventure?

45. What’s the cheesiest pickup line that would actually work on you?

46. If you could have a superpower that only worked on your crush, what would it be?

47. What’s the most nervous you’ve ever been around someone you liked?

48. Do you think about someone right before you fall asleep? Who?

49. What’s the one thing that would make you text someone back immediately?

50. If this conversation were a movie, what genre would it be?

Deep 21 Questions That Start Real Conversations

Deep 21 questions bypass small talk entirely and get to the stuff that actually shapes who someone is — their fears, their values, the experiences that rewired how they see the world. These work best when the conversation has already warmed up (start with the flirty or funny sections first) or when you’re with someone you genuinely want to understand on a different level.

51. What’s a belief you held strongly five years ago that you’ve completely changed your mind on?

52. If you could have a conversation with your 10-year-old self, what would you say?

53. What’s the hardest lesson you’ve had to learn the hard way?

54. Do you think people can truly change, or do they just learn to hide who they are?

55. What’s the most important promise you’ve ever made to yourself?

56. If you knew you only had one year left, what would you stop doing immediately?

57. What’s something you need to forgive yourself for?

58. Who has had the single biggest influence on who you are today?

59. What’s a question you’re afraid to know the answer to?

60. Do you think you’re living the life you were meant to live, or someone else’s version of it?

61. What’s the loneliest you’ve ever felt, and what got you through it?

62. If you could forget one memory, would you? Which one?

63. What do you think happens after we die?

64. What’s a truth about yourself that’s hard to admit out loud?

65. What would you want written on your gravestone?

66. Have you ever had a moment that completely shattered your worldview?

67. What do you think your biggest blind spot is?

68. If you could sit with one person — dead or alive — for an hour, who would it be and what would you ask?

69. What are you most grateful for that you rarely acknowledge?

70. What scares you more: failing, or never trying?

71. Do you think vulnerability is a strength or a liability?

72. What’s the most significant sacrifice you’ve made for someone else?

73. When was the last time you cried, and why?

74. What part of your personality do you wish more people understood?

75. If your life had a theme, what would it be?

21 Questions for Couples

Playing 21 Questions as a couple — whether you’ve been together three months or three decades — taps into a paradox: you think you know everything about this person, and then question #8 proves you don’t. These are divided into three tiers so you can match the intensity to where your relationship actually is. Pair this with our Would You Rather questions for couples for a full date-night rotation.

For New Couples (Getting to Know Each Other)

76. What’s a deal-breaker in a relationship that most people wouldn’t expect from you?

77. What’s the love story you grew up watching that shaped your idea of romance?

78. Do you believe relationships require constant work, or should the right one feel easy?

79. What’s the most thoughtful gift you’ve ever given or received?

80. How do you know when you’re falling for someone — what’s the first sign?

81. What’s something you swore you’d never compromise on in a relationship?

82. What does ‘quality time’ actually look like for you — structured plans or comfortable silence?

83. What’s the biggest red flag you’ve ignored in the past?

84. If I could read your mind for one minute right now, what would I find?

85. What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve done trying to impress a partner?

For Long-Term Couples (Going Deeper)

86. What’s something about us that you think we’ve never talked about but should?

87. When was the last time I surprised you — in a good way?

88. What’s the one thing I do that makes you feel the most loved?

89. Is there a dream you’ve put on hold since we’ve been together?

90. What’s the hardest moment we’ve been through, and what did it teach you about us?

91. If you could change one thing about how we communicate, what would it be?

92. What’s a date we went on that you still think about?

93. Where do you see us in 10 years — honestly, not the polished answer?

94. What’s something about me that you’ve learned to love over time?

95. If we had to start over from scratch — new city, new everything — would you be excited or terrified?

Spicy Couples Questions

96. What’s something you’ve always wanted to try together but never brought up?

97. What’s the most attractive version of me you’ve seen?

98. If we were strangers at a bar tonight, would you approach me?

99. What’s a fantasy you haven’t shared with me yet?

100. When do you feel most connected to me — physically and emotionally?

101. What’s the boldest thing I’ve ever done that caught you off guard?

102. If we could relive one night together, which one would you pick?

103. What’s something I do without realizing it that drives you crazy — in a good way?

104. What song reminds you of us?

105. If you could write one rule for our relationship, what would it be?

21 Questions for Friends

These are the questions that turn a casual hangout into a night everyone talks about for months. They’re personal without being invasive, revealing without being heavy — the sweet spot where friendships actually deepen. Best played during road trips, sleepovers, or any moment where the group energy is high and phones are down.

106. What’s a secret skill you have that nobody in this group knows about?

107. If you had to live with one person from this friend group for a year, who would it be?

108. What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s happened to you that we DON’T know about?

109. Who in this group would you call first in a genuine emergency?

110. What’s a friendship you lost that you still think about?

111. If you could swap lives with anyone here for a week, who would it be?

112. What’s the most chaotic thing we’ve done together as a group?

113. What’s one opinion you hold that would start an argument in this friend group?

114. If you had to describe each person here in one word, what would you say?

115. What’s your hot take that you know is objectively wrong but you’ll die on that hill?

116. What’s the most thoughtful thing a friend has ever done for you?

117. Who in this group do you think you’d still be friends with in 20 years?

118. What’s a conversation you’ve been avoiding with someone here?

119. If this group had a reality show, what would the title be?

120. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever eaten just because someone dared you?

121. Who here would be the worst influence on your decision-making?

122. What’s a childhood memory that made you who you are today?

123. If you could only keep three apps on your phone, which would survive?

124. What’s the biggest lie you’ve told someone in this group?

125. If we all had to survive a zombie apocalypse together, who’d be the first to betray the group?

126. What’s the funniest inside joke we have, and do you remember how it started?

127. What’s one thing you appreciate about this friendship that you’ve never said out loud?

128. If you could plan the ultimate group trip with no budget limit, where would we go?

129. What’s the most unhinged thing you’ve done alone that you’d never do in front of us?

130. Who here gives the best advice — and who gives advice you should definitely ignore?

Funny 21 Questions That Break the Ice

Funny 21 questions are the warm-up category — they loosen the group, lower defenses, and prime people for the heavier sections. The best funny questions aren’t random absurdity; they’re specific enough that the answer reveals something real about the person, wrapped in a ridiculous hypothetical.

131. If you were a kitchen appliance, which one would you be and why?

132. What’s the dumbest thing you’ve ever Googled?

133. If animals could talk, which species would be the rudest?

134. What’s the most embarrassing song on your playlist that you listen to unironically?

135. If you had to eat one meal for the rest of your life, what’s the meal?

136. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve done when you thought no one was watching?

137. If your life had a laugh track, which moment would get the biggest reaction?

138. What’s the most useless talent you have?

139. If you could have an unlimited supply of one thing (not money), what would it be?

140. What’s the worst fashion choice you’ve ever made with full confidence?

141. If you were arrested with no explanation, what would your friends assume you did?

142. What’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve cried over?

143. If you had to join a circus, what would your act be?

144. What’s the worst advice you’ve ever followed?

145. If you were a flavor, what flavor would you be?

146. What’s the most unhinged thing in your refrigerator right now?

147. If you could rename yourself with zero social consequences, what would you choose?

148. What’s a conspiracy theory you half-believe even though you know it’s ridiculous?

149. If your pet could talk, what would they expose about you?

150. What’s the biggest overreaction you’ve ever had to a minor inconvenience?

151. If you were a wrestler, what would your entrance song and stage name be?

152. What’s the weirdest compliment you’ve ever received?

153. If you had to teach a class on any subject, what obscure topic would you pick?

154. What’s the most embarrassing autocorrect fail you’ve sent?

155. If your life were a sitcom, who would play you?

21 Questions to Get to Know Someone

These are the questions that work in the broadest range of situations — a new coworker, a friend-of-a-friend at a party, a first date where you want to skip the “so what do you do” loop. They’re personal enough to create a real connection without requiring the level of trust that the deep or freaky sections demand.

156. What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received, and did you actually follow it?

157. What’s something you’re weirdly passionate about that most people don’t know?

158. If money wasn’t a factor, what would you do with your days?

159. What’s a small moment in your life that changed everything?

160. What does your perfect Sunday look like from morning to night?

161. What’s a skill you wish you’d picked up as a kid?

162. What’s the bravest thing you’ve ever done?

163. If you could master any instrument overnight, which one?

164. What’s a book, show, or movie that genuinely changed how you think?

165. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?

166. If you could live anywhere in the world for a year, where would you go?

167. What’s a tradition you’d want to pass down to the next generation?

168. What are you most proud of that has nothing to do with work or school?

169. What’s a random act of kindness that stuck with you?

170. If you could have dinner with any historical figure, who and why?

171. What’s the most interesting thing that happened to you this week?

172. What’s a hill you’ll die on that nobody agrees with?

173. What’s the best trip you’ve ever taken and what made it special?

174. If your life had a soundtrack, what three songs would be on it?

175. What’s a goal you have right now that excites you?

176. What do people misunderstand about you most often?

177. What’s the last thing that made you genuinely laugh until you cried?

178. If you could relive one day of your life, which would it be?

179. What’s a unpopular opinion you hold about food?

180. What three words would your best friend use to describe you?

Spicy 21 Questions — Adults Only (18+)

These go past flirty and well into territory that requires trust, comfort, and ideally no one’s parents within earshot. Spicy 21 questions work best between two people with established chemistry or at an adults-only game night where the boundaries have already been discussed. If anyone in the group seems even slightly uncomfortable, rotate back to the funny or getting-to-know-you categories.

181. What’s the most scandalous thing you’d confess if no one here would judge you?

182. What’s your biggest turn-on that you’ve never told anyone?

183. Have you ever had a fantasy about a friend? Without naming them — describe it.

184. What’s the most daring place you’ve been intimate?

185. What’s a line someone said to you that immediately worked?

186. If you could have a no-strings-attached night with any celebrity, who?

187. What’s the biggest misconception people have about you in the bedroom?

188. What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s happened during an intimate moment?

189. What’s your guilty-pleasure dating show, and what does that say about you?

190. Have you ever sent something to the wrong person that you desperately wished you could unsend?

191. What’s the boldest first move someone has ever made on you?

192. What would you rate yourself out of 10 as a kisser — honestly?

193. What’s the most romantic thing you’ve done that completely flopped?

194. If your love life were a movie genre, what would it be?

195. What’s the most revealing outfit you’d wear if no one you knew would see?

196. Have you ever had tension with someone where nothing happened but everything felt electric?

197. What’s a song that puts you in a certain mood every time?

198. What’s the most PG thing that you find secretly attractive?

199. Have you ever done something you said you’d never do? What was it?

200. What’s your hottest take about modern dating?

201. If you could relive one passionate moment in your life, which one?

202. What’s a compliment that would immediately make you blush?

203. What do you think is the most underrated aspect of physical chemistry?

204. If you had to describe your ideal partner’s vibe in three words, what are they?

205. What’s the most intense eye contact you’ve ever had with someone?

21 Questions to Play Over Text

Playing 21 questions over text has its own rhythm. Without tone of voice or facial expressions, you need questions that land clearly in writing and invite long replies rather than one-word answers. These are optimized for text conversations — they provoke stories, not just facts.

Conversation Starters (Open With These)

206. What’s the last screenshot you saved and why?

207. If your phone died and you could only restore three apps, which ones?

208. What’s the most random thing that made your day recently?

209. What’s your current phone wallpaper and is there a story behind it?

210. What emoji do you overuse the most?

Going Deeper Over Text

211. What’s the longest conversation you’ve had over text, and what was it about?

212. Have you ever typed a whole message, deleted it, and never sent it? What did it say?

213. What’s something you can only say over text that you’d never say in person?

214. If I scrolled through your camera roll right now, what would I learn about you?

215. What’s the most meaningful text message you’ve ever received?

Flirty Text Questions

216. What would you do if I showed up at your door right now?

217. If you could send me one voice note right now, what would you say?

218. What’s the last thing you thought about before you texted me?

219. If this conversation were happening in person, what would be different?

220. What’s the most attractive thing someone can do in a text conversation?

Late Night Text Questions

221. What keeps you up at night — literally?

222. What’s a thought you only have after midnight?

223. If you could teleport to one place right now, where?

224. What’s the most honest thing you’ve ever said at 3 a.m.?

225. If we were talking on the phone instead of texting, would this conversation be different?

21 Questions Drinking Game

The drinking version turns the already-personal 21 questions format into a game with consequences — and the consequences make people braver with their answers, which makes the questions hit harder. Here’s how to set it up:

Drinking Game Rules

Setup: Sit in a circle with drinks. Choose the first person in the hot seat.
The ask: Going clockwise, each player asks the hot-seat person one question from any category on this list.
Honest answer: The hot-seat person answers honestly. If the group collectively agrees the answer was a dodge or a lie, the hot-seat person drinks twice.
The pass penalty: The hot-seat person can refuse to answer, but they take a drink for every pass. Maximum 3 passes per round.
The reversal: After answering, the hot-seat person can ‘reverse’ the question back to the asker. If the asker refuses to answer their own question, they drink.
Hot seat rotation: After 21 questions (or one full circle), the next person takes the hot seat.

Expert Tips to Make 21 Questions Actually Fun

The game’s mechanic is dead simple — ask, answer, repeat — but the difference between a forgettable round and one people screenshot and send to the group chat comes down to execution:

Start lighter than you think: The biggest mistake is opening with deep or freaky questions before the group is warmed up. Spend the first 5–7 questions in the funny or getting-to-know-someone category. The escalation is what makes the later questions land — without the build-up, a deep question just feels awkward instead of powerful.
Follow up on answers: The game isn’t 21 isolated questions — it’s a conversation. When someone gives an interesting answer, ask a natural follow-up before moving to the next numbered question. The best moments in 21 Questions happen between the official questions.
Match questions to the relationship: Don’t ask couples questions to strangers or getting-to-know-you questions to your best friend of 15 years. The question should be calibrated to reveal something new given the existing level of familiarity.
Ban one-word answers: House-rule it from the start: every answer must be at least two sentences. This single rule transforms the game from a rapid-fire quiz into actual conversation.
Use the number-pick format for groups: Having someone pick a number blind adds an element of chance that removes the social pressure of deliberately choosing an awkward question. It also means nobody can game the system by asking only easy questions.
Read the room: If someone’s energy drops, switch categories. If the group is getting louder and more engaged, escalate. The category system in this article is designed for exactly this — you can shift vibes mid-game without breaking the format.

What to Play After 21 Questions

21 Questions opens people up — once the group has been through a full round of honest answers, the social dynamic shifts. These games channel that new energy into different mechanics:

Truth or Dare Questions — after 21 rounds of answering, switching to a game that adds physical dares alongside the questions changes the energy entirely. The truth component hits harder because people are already in an honest headspace.

Never Have I Ever Questions — 21 Questions reveals what people think; Never Have I Ever reveals what they’ve actually done. The contrast between “what would you do” and “what have you done” creates a second wave of surprises.

Would You Rather Questions — trades the open-ended format of 21 Questions for forced-choice dilemmas. It’s a good decompression game because there’s no wrong answer — the pressure shifts from honesty to logic.

Paranoia Questions — if 21 Questions felt too direct, Paranoia adds a layer of mystery. The whisper-point-coin mechanic means the person being talked about doesn’t know the question — it’s the opposite of 21 Questions’ direct format.

21 Questions Game: FAQ

What is the 21 questions game?

The 21 questions game is a conversation-based party game where one person answers 21 personal questions asked by another player or a group. The game has no equipment requirement — just people and curiosity. It’s played in four main formats: classic (two players taking turns), group hot seat (one person answers questions from everyone), the viral number-pick version (players choose a number 1–21 blind and answer whatever question corresponds to it), and over text (using the number-pick format in a messaging app). The game’s popularity comes from its simplicity — the only rule is honesty.

What are good 21 questions to ask?

The best 21 questions balance two things: they’re personal enough to create a genuine connection, but open-ended enough that the answer tells a story rather than giving a fact. Strong examples across categories include “What’s a belief you’ve completely changed your mind on?” (deep), “What’s the first thing you noticed about me?” (flirty), “If you were arrested with no explanation, what would friends assume you did?” (funny), and “What’s your biggest turn-on you’ve never told anyone?” (freaky). The key is matching the question’s intensity to your relationship with the person — a question that’s perfect for a close friend would be uncomfortable with someone you just met.

How do you play 21 questions over text?

The text version works best with the number-pick format: create a numbered list of 21 questions, then ask the other person to pick a number without seeing the list. Reveal the question, they answer, then they can pick another number or swap roles. Key text-game tips: send questions one at a time (don’t dump a wall of text), respond to answers before sending the next question, agree upfront that no answers get screenshotted, and use voice notes for questions where tone matters. The full text-optimized section above has 20 questions specifically designed for conversations that happen on a screen.

Is 21 questions a flirty game?

It can be — it depends entirely on which questions you choose. The game itself is format-neutral; it becomes flirty when you use flirty questions, deep when you use deep questions, and funny when you use funny ones. That said, the one-on-one format and the honesty requirement make it naturally suited for flirting, which is why it’s one of the most popular games for first dates and texting with a crush. The flirty and freaky sections in this article are specifically built for that context, while the friends and getting-to-know-you sections keep things platonic.

What is the difference between 20 questions and 21 questions?

They’re completely different games that share a similar name. 20 Questions is a guessing game — one person thinks of a thing, and the other players ask up to 20 yes-or-no questions to figure out what it is. It’s a deduction game. 21 Questions is a conversation game — players take turns asking and answering personal questions. There’s no guessing, no right answer, and no winning condition. The “21” is simply the number of questions per round, though most groups play loosely and don’t actually count.

Want to skip the game and just get to know someone better? Try our questions to get to know someone, sorted from light to deep with playlists for dates, friends and work.

Can you play 21 questions with more than two people?

Yes — the group hot-seat format is specifically designed for 3 to 10+ players. One person sits in the hot seat and everyone else takes turns asking them questions. After 21 questions total (or one full rotation), a new person takes the hot seat. The drinking game version also works with groups, adding physical consequences to make the honesty mechanic even more potent. For very large groups (10+), the number-pick format works best because it keeps the pacing tight.